The Decolonial Parent

a continuous work in progress

  • Race and Culture, Race or Culture?

    Race and Culture, Race or Culture?

    Recently, a couple of conversations have arisen in various circles I frequent that I feel kinda uniquely positioned to speak to. I grew up mixed both racially and culturally, and the extent to which both have shaped me is informing the ways I plan to navigate these issues with my own children. This will be…

  • Release and Ready

    Release and Ready

    Do you have a point of focus for the year ahead yet? It’s not for everyone, but I typically find it helpful to sit quietly with my thoughts at the turn of the calendar page. This can take any form: barefoot during the silence of a new morning with a hot cup of tea and…

  • Evolving as Keepers of Culture

    Evolving as Keepers of Culture

    We’ve had a lot of conversations around here of late about what it means to be immigrant carriers of culture, and the dissonance of returning to your homeland after years abroad. Typically, the culture there has evolved and updated with the times, whilst often the culture carried abroad has ossified and become outdated. Our cultural…

  • Where we’ve come from

    Where we’ve come from

    As we look forward to raising our child in this complex and confusing world, we think it’s important to have a clear picture of how we ended up here. Coming from completely different worlds ourselves, we’ve somehow navigated our way to each other to build a life that reflects our values and nurtures our dreams.…

  • Take what serves you and leave the rest

    Take what serves you and leave the rest

    I’ll probably write about this a few times over the next month-to-a-year, as it’s a topic close to my heart. For today, I want to focus on the idea that when we honour traditions we need to adhere to them. While on the one hand I absolutely agree with and advocate for the notion that…

  • Imposter syndrome

    Imposter syndrome

    Some people may ask, Who are we to write a blog on parenting when we haven’t given birth yet? And that’s a fair question.

  • How it begins

    How it begins

    One minute we were out here living our dual freelancer lives, doing our best to navigate the vagaries of a novel bureaucratic system in a language we have a feeble grasp of (at best). Within moments, we became custodians of a whole new future. Over the coming months, we’ll be preparing our home and our…

  • my yoga journey doesn’t fit onto instagram

    my yoga journey doesn’t fit onto instagram

    I’d never owned a yoga mat, and didn’t know what a child’s pose was. I balked at the idea of putting my face anywhere near a mat that someone else’s feet had sweated on, wasn’t comfortable sitting or lying still with my eyes closed for any length of time, and there was no way in…

  • life as practice and the school of hard knocks

    life as practice and the school of hard knocks

    No matter how deep it cuts or how high we fly, tomorrow is a new day.

  • to stick or fold? how 2020 taught me lessons for the future

    to stick or fold? how 2020 taught me lessons for the future

    Learning where to stick and when to fold. When to follow through, and where to alter course. What are the risks and what are the gains, and how to judge the cost?

  • to infinite suffering, and beyond!

    to infinite suffering, and beyond!

    These feelings of helplessness, of loneliness, of creativity, of community, of longing, of fear; all of the feelings that have surfaced as 2020 has elapsed, collapsed, and relapsed, none of them are new. These feelings already existed in our world, in our carefully-ordered states of work and leisure. Loneliness, depression, anxiety, chronic fatigue, and other…

  • a challenge or a lesson?

    a challenge or a lesson?

    It’s ok to quit as long as we learn. Time to sit down and be humble.

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